Gossip Girl
For the record, sometimes I spend the first 20 minutes before I write a blog post like this…

*Am I really going to admit this publicly…
Well, apparently, I am. Friends, I am a gossip. I grew up in a big family in a small town, so while I perhaps come by it honestly, truthfully it isn’t something I always love about myself. Interestingly though, while researching this post, I learned (much to my relief and chagrin) that we are all are gossips, all of us. In fact, according to Psychology Today gossip is necessary, it is how we connect, learn to behave, and maintain social order. Apparently gossip reinforces our moral code so much so, that without it, we would fall apart as a society. In fact, one evolutionary psychologist claims that gossip is perhaps the reason humans developed verbal language in the first place.

*Different language skills, still clearly gossiping.
So, if this is true, why does no one (myself included) love to admit that we do it? Probably because, while perhaps it is necessary to the proper functioning of society, there are times where not only is it unnecessary, it is unkind. I thought about this the other day, when in a stupid moment, I said something that I instantly regretted. It wasn’t cruel, but it wasn’t necessary, and it wasn’t kind. And quiet honestly, if I could have shoved the words back down my throat the moment they escaped, I would have.

*A beautiful representation of exactly how big my mouth can be…
So, how do we decide? What is the good, community building, morality maintaining gossip and what is just, well, gossip? Over the years, particularly the last twenty or so, yoga has become more and more about the physical practice, the asanas. But originally it was truly about having a moral and ethical practice, the asanas were simply a tool on your journey. Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra is sort of a guide book on how to live morally, yogically. It outlines eight components or limbs we are to follow to find the path of pure bliss. In the first limb the Yamas, the first Yama is Ahimsa, the practice of non-violence. A very very rough translation of this Yama states to practice Ahimsa, we are to practice compassion toward all living beings.

*Yes, apparently even to snakes…eek.
So yogically, that is the answer…if you are going to gossip, which apparently we all are, do so with compassion. A good rule of thumb really for most things, if you can’t do something with compassion, just don’t do it. For the record, I am still very aware that that was not what I was doing that day in the office, however, luckily by practicing Ahimsa we are also meant to have compassion for ourselves. I made a mistake, as I often do, and I will forgive myself, and I plan to one day…but that my friends, is a whole other blog topic.
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7 Responses to “Gossip Girl”
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Great blog, love it. As always, your comments make us all think about our every day actions! Thank you.
Thank you Janet. As always, very much appreciated.
Namaste, Cara-Lynne
I am also from a large family (all girls) so I guess gossiping was considered the norm! I will admit I love it- but maybe now with less remorse and shame. Thank you. I ‘m almost out of the closet!
Thank you Barb. I must admit that the research that says a) we all gossip, and b) it is important for our society, definitely helped in my admissions ;). Namaste, Cara-Lynne
Hate hate the snake…………
I love your blogs! So this “gossip” one reminded me of an expression that a lot of us seem to forget; and I have been guilty about it in the past, but since having knowledge of both good & bad outcomes, I believe it’s best to behave like this, with compassion, in everything we do, for ourselves as well as for others.?
?Before you speak:
?Is it Kind?
?Is if True?
?Is it Necessary?
Love and Compassion are the keys to living with freedom in your heart. ?????❤
So well said, Kelli, thank you. And so so true, and yes, it is a great reminder for all of us, to behave with compassion. Thank you so much for the comment, Kelli.
Namaste,
Cara-Lynne